2013 and what it means to me – High Five!

As they used to say in Sesame Street, this blog is brought to you by the number 5.

January 16th will be 5 years to the day since I was diagnosed with Inflammatory Breast Cancer. the chances of surviving to 5 years are 40%, so I have beaten the odds, so far. The chances of surviving to 10 years are 35%, so planning on beating that one too.

To everyone who has supported me through this, I thank you with all my heart x

May 16th will be 5 years since being declared ‘NED’ No evidence of disease.

June 19th will be my 50th birthday, which I will be celebrating at Rhodes Rocks, a wonderful holiday and rock festival in Lindos. This is our 5th year of attending Rhodes Rock. I cannot begin to tell you how many great times we have had with this bunch of crazy people, and we have made some great friends for life. Our calendars are now packed with reunions, birthday parties all over the country and get togethers at many live music events.

So a time for reflection, to think about what I have learnt in the last 5 years.

1.Balance  I have learned to live my life in balance, to care for myself more and appreciate the love of my friends and family. I understand the importance of making time for things that make me happy, and stop getting so caught up in being busy. I have learned the hard way that I need to cut myself off from negative people, I am blessed with so many warm, wonderful people who I need to make more time for. I have learned it’s OK to have lazy days, although they are rare, I love them.

2.Social media is a wonderful thing, I have connected with so many like-minded people, and made some great friends around the world. I have started a support group, Confidence after Cancer, and we have 968 followers on Facebook, and I try my best to respond quickly to all the women who contact me through this. I have learnt how to create a basic website .  I have learnt twitter, blogging, and connected with Helen Adams and Lisa Cherry who have both featured me in their books,  Gorgeous and Soul Journey. These are brilliant books I am proud to have contributed to, and I am still planning to write more books too. My little book Supreme Confidence in 7 Days, is now on Amazon. I am a writer!

3. Serving others:

I have learned that helping others feels right, and makes what I have been through worthwhile if I can help others. I am a volunteer with Breast Cancer Care on a pilot scheme called Best Foot Forward, a walking group for breast cancer survivors. I am also Treasurer for Marie Curie, a fabulous organisation. I also support Macmillan, their centre was invaluable to me when I was going through treatment, I joined their choir, had Reflexology and Reiki, absolutely fabulous.

I was lucky enough to be a member of crew at Tony Robbins Unleash The Power  event in London in May 2012, and he often talks about the six basic human needs; supporting other women who have been through a similar experience to me, is effortless and inspiring to me, and it supports all of my needs. Would I have learnt this all this without IBC? Probably not.


I have learned to be so grateful for all I have, wonderful family and friends, my health, my desire to learn and grow. I am so grateful for my recovery, I have met some wonderful people who have not been so lucky, some have sadly died, others are still suffering with cancer. I try not to feel guilty, but wonder, why? I try not to focus on the question we all ask, ‘Will it come back?’ and just think about how wonderful each and every day is. I have learned to cope with depression by saying my prayers every night and every morning, and genuinely giving thanks for all that I have.

5. My beliefs:

My belief is that cancer is your body giving you a wake up call, get your life in order, eat well, drink water, laugh more, worry less, let go of negative emotions and people, and live every day in utter gratitude. Life is not always a bed of roses, but it is so much better than the alternative.

Commander Lock: ‘Dammit, Morpheus. Not everyone believes what you believe.’
Morpheus : ‘My beliefs do not require them to.’
I have learnt lots more besides, which I will share over the next few days; why I would never have another mammogram, why I won’t support Cancer Research, how to stay positive when life is hard, why I am studying nutritional healing, lots of  simple ways to improve your health and other random musings.

Thank you for reading, send you love and light always


About gabbymottershead

Inflammatory Breast Cancer survivor and advocate, Breast Cacner UK ambassador, party animal, proud grandmother, mother to two wonderful sons, wife to Paul, loving life in Manchester, the best place on earth. Love my family, live music, my house rabbit and general shenanigans.
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13 Responses to 2013 and what it means to me – High Five!

  1. Lisa Cherry says:

    What you speak of are the diamonds and we have to dig very very deeply into every crevice to get them and that is what you have done through the harshness of cancer. Once we know how to find them, it all comes a lot easier. I’m smiling as I write this because I feel nothing but love for you and your recovery and I am soooooooo a happy you are writing and sharing all of this…..being a bit of a fan of writing as healing (for the writer and the reader).

    Big thank you
    Lisa x

  2. Denise Sanderson says:

    Brilliant – simply brilliant reading x. And now I will start my day again, in a more positive way.

    Always, Menace x

    Sent from my iPhone

  3. Patricia Walker says:

    Loved your comments !!!! IBC has changed me too !!!

  4. christine greener says:

    very inspiring the way you have shared your experience and achieved so much which in turn has helped support so many others. wishing you good health and happiness in the future.xx

  5. Awesome post – I loved your honesty and your fresh approach. Very pleased I get to know you 🙂 Much love xxx

  6. You’re an inspiration to us all Gabby !!!

  7. Harry Smith says:

    Gabby our life is so much richer since you came into it. Thankyou so much you are one of lifes good people. Love ya to bits H. xx

  8. Gerri smith says:

    Gabby having only known you less than year you are a remarkable and inspiring woman I am proud and humbled to call u a friend.You inspire so many people with your courage and self belief it has been an absolute honour getting to know you and your family and family of friends and being able to call u my friend. X

  9. Sky says:

    now that is what I call a Super Star, love you Gabby x
    I believe you have found the secret to life itself, whether you’re ill or not, you found the formula to live a full and happy life.
    The big C, like any illness, can become your enemy or your teacher and I believe you had to survive to help others to get through it.
    What an inspiration you are xx

  10. Michaela Firth says:

    What a wonderful honest and inspirational read! I will share with friends . I love the concept of positive thought and paying things forward
    I will live by this x
    Good luck

  11. Carole Sanek says:

    Gabby thank you for sharing – this is a wonderful article.

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